2020/04/26 • BY JADE
It’s in our fundamental human nature to want people to like us.
I used to care A LOT about what people thought of me, especially since I’ve started writing and sharing my thoughts online.
It’s in our DNA to want to be part of a group. All of us want likes, followers, and to be loved by everyone.
However, not caring what other people think about you will set you free.
Living your life not caring what others may think of you will let you live a life where you can always show up as your genuine self. That is the type of life we want.
What is it that makes other people’s approval so desirable?
When you think about it, there isn’t an explanation. It doesn’t make sense.
Here are some false beliefs that sometimes stop us from living our dream life:
As you may have noticed, it’s all rooted in fear.
And the facts are that we have no control over what others think of us. At the end of the day, other people’s thoughts are just that – their thoughts.
Other people’s opinions have absolutely nothing to do with you.
You could simply remind them, or look like someone they dislike and that could make them think negatively about you.
It has nothing to with you and everything to do with them.
The opinions that people form about you has a lot to do with their past experiences and the way they perceive the world.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is find peace in the fact that you can’t change other’s opinions about you.
You will most likely never be able to understand why people think the way they do because you can’t get inside their head.
It’s simply impossible. There will always be people who judge you. So let them, and continue living and improving your life.
The same goes for how people act. Everyone acts based on their emotions and thoughts, and people have the freedom to think however they choose.
For example, if you start a blog, not everyone is going to resonate with you and become a fan, or even like the content you choose to put out there.
You can’t please everyone who visits your website. Each person is going to have their own opinions and thoughts about your content.
Though it’s in our nature to want to be liked by everyone, it’s not possible.
As hard as it is to accept – it’s true.
Growing up, I used to be a people pleaser.
I wanted everyone to like me and approve of what I was doing.
Why though? At a certain age, I started becoming more interested in how our brains work, and I learned the true definition of being a people pleaser.
Someone who isn’t showing up as their unique and awesome self.
When we focus so much on making everyone else happy, we end up losing a part of ourselves.
And at the end of the day, one of the most important things I have ever learned is that: The only person whose opinion of you matters is you.
Put yourself out there and embrace your vulnerability.
Take a walk outside of your comfort zone.
The more you do it, the easier it becomes. You are so much more than people’s perceptions of you.
It’s so important to find people who encourage you to be your best self and except you for who you are – and not someone you’re pretending to be.
Don’t waste your time and energy, worrying about those who don’t.
If you try to please everyone, you end up living life for their dreams and not for yours.
Make your choices based on your own thoughts about yourself, not someone else’s.
Remember that you have so much potential and you can achieve even your biggest dreams if you put your mind to it.
Never let anyone else’s opinion stop you from becoming your best self.
It’s up to you if you’re going to let them get to you or not.
Life is so much better when you don’t focus on other people’s opinions. I promise you it is worth the mindset work.